Over the last year, I’ve had the opportunity to learn a lot about death. I was directly involved in my father’s ten months of hospice care, and wrote many blogs about that. In January and February I wrote about the after-death experience.
A few weeks ago I lit a spirit fire for both of my parents. It was my father’s birthday and the three-year anniversary of my mother’s death. The fire is a portal to the Spirit World. Lighting the fire is a ritual that honors the spirits that guide us. For me, this fire was also about holding space for my parents—their physical presence may be gone but their impact on the world is not. Although I had a difficult relationship with my parents, I still honor their bringing me into the world.
A few days ago my father came to me. He was troubled and needed to tell me something. He had never been very comfortable with feelings, and the process of getting to the heart of his concern took a while. I needed to step away from being the daughter and just be the channeler. Here are some parts of that conversation:
What is it that you want to achieve by saying this, whatever it is.
I want to make sure that when I travel farther away, the people who need these words will have them.
So it’s a gift.