I’ve had to end a friendship. This was not easy to do. I went on a trip with someone and after we came home they announced that I’d been mean to them, on purpose, during the entire trip. What?? I suddenly became too dangerous to talk to in person––they were only willing to look at the conflict using email. That only dug the hole deeper. Why was this so complicated?

The Women’s Collective:  It has to be so complicated because it is so complicated. It’s complicated by your past and present as well as their past and present. There are things to work out here that have little to do with this particular situation. It is just the vehicle. 

The other person kept saying that their interpretation of my intentional harm must be true because they could feel it in their body. The body is where trauma is stored, so I imagine that something about me triggered something else for them––I didn’t create their trauma, I just bumped up against it.

Yes. They are aware of this other trauma but are not making the connection to it. You have struggled with this kind of thing too, as an empath. There is so much energy flowing through all the time, it is difficult to discern what is yours and what is someone else’s, what is in the present and what is in the past, what is in this lifetime’s past and what comes from other lifetimes. 

No wonder humans are such a messy tangle of ego reactions!

That is the key: ego. Ego is the unique configuration that makes you you. There is no mistake about this. Everyone is carrying energy from past lifetimes, this lifetime, even future lifetimes. It is why it is so important to heal yourself in this lifetime—because it also heals in all directions, not just for yourself and your ancestors, but for the energy of the All. 

This is what you are here to do. So of course no one is perfect. Everyone is struggling with this task. It is this learning and shifting that enriches the collective conscious, that forms the connection with the One, which is the Source and Sustenance of our collective body. 

You have boiled this all down to one relationship. You have forgotten the context where this occurs. You are allowing your ego, the physical expression of lifetimes of experience, to determine how you act in this one situation. You can help yourself by stepping back. Way back. See yourself in the context of the Cosmos. The bigger picture. Understand that everyone is here to teach everyone. It is all connected in the web of Everything. Conduct yourself as the United One, as the Sinner and the Sinned On, as the Forgiver and the Forgiven, as the Lover and the Loved. Dualities only exist within the form of Unity. 

This is the answer you are seeking: conduct yourself as the embodiment of the One, stand in the Echo. Walk the timeline of your current horizontal life within the context of vertical Universal timelessness. This is how to arrange your energy in any situation. It is all the same vibration. When you are aligned in this way, the truth will be known to you without thinking––it will be Known.