In the last post, Ricardo spoke about boundaries and the need to practice being soft. This can be a big ask for empaths. Empaths are students of the school of hard knocks just like every one else, but we are also are extra sensitive to the energy of others. How can empaths be soft without absorbing the negative energy of others?

A’riquea:  You want to have your energy open to receive the gifts of your expanding life. One of the qualities of Empaths, which is both a gift and a problem, is porous boundaries. You have come to this through the configuration of your birth––both with your genetics and with your family and cultural constellations. Being porous does not mean that everyone belongs in your inner space. 

I recently heard the energy surrounding us referred to as a house of concentric bubbles, with not everyone being invited into your inner rooms.

This is partly true. You do not have to invite everyone Home with you. But part of being a functional empath is having the ability to recognize what is ego and what is spirit. Both yours and that of others. Someone else’s ego bouncing up against your spirit has much less negative effect than someone else’s ego bouncing up against your ego. It’s about tracking where your own energy is placed. 

In a recent situation, your relationship with another had some spirit-to-spirit interactions. But then the other person’s ego came crashing into your ego space and you reacted. Apparently, this is what needed to happen in that time. You have struggled since then to sort through your own ego space while also holding spiritual energy. It is important to understand your ego process, because that will help you to avoid similar mistakes in the future. But the bottom line requires you to function in spiritual space. Pull back, and see the bigger context. Every time you get hooked back into ego reaction, pull back and see the bigger context—the context of human behavior and the limits of ego, and then re-center yourself in spiritual energy.

You can let go of this situation, but not if you continue to feed your ego the energy of harm. Feed your spirit the energy of Love. Feed your own spirit. Remember what this feels like. Practice it. Practice being soft, trusting the Universe, and feeding your own spirit. You will develop a new energy habit, and this will be needed in your future. Give yourself Love.